Autism-friendly Santas a hit at malls, parties
Thursday, December 22, 2011
HARTFORD, Conn. (AP) — Visiting the mall to share Christmas wishes with Santa has never been part of Ben Borre’s childhood, a sad but necessary concession to the autism that would make the noise, lights and crowds an unbearable torment for the 10-year-old.
Now, though, a growing number of “sensitive” Santas in shopping centers, at community parties and elsewhere are giving Ben and others a chance to meet the big guy in autism-friendly settings — and providing families a chance to capture elusive Christmas photos and memories that families of typical children may take for granted.
Ohio-based Glimcher Realty Trust recently started offering sensitive Santa sessions in its two dozen malls nationwide, and several service organizations and autism family groups have recruited low-key Kris Kringles who adjust their demeanor to the special needs of their young guests.
“Every parent dreads the noise and chaos of the mall Santa scene, but this isn’t even dreading. It’s just literally un-doable for us,” said Darlene Borre of West Hartford, Ben’s mother.
Ben, a nonverbal fourth-grader, is among the up to 1.5 million Americans living with autism spectrum disorders that can include delays or disabilities in communication, behavior and socialization. They can range from mild difficulties to significant impairments that make it difficult for those children to interact with others.
Many children with autism are especially sensitive to loud noises, jangling music, crowds and unpredictable situations, and some parents say the idea they could wait patiently in a long line to see Santa is laughable at best.
The Borres tried without success a few times over the years to grab quick snapshots if Ben randomly walked close enough to any Santa they encountered, but with mixed results.
Now, he visits an autism-friendly Santa each December at an informal yearly event that Borre and other autism families hold at a local playground. The sensitive Santa happens to be Ben’s grandfather, Ray Lepak, who was compelled to become an autism-friendly Santa for local families after seeing what his daughter’s family was experiencing.
“Just because a family has a child with special needs doesn’t mean they don’t want all the same memories that everyone else does,” Borre said. “We all want those same holiday joyful moments; it just has to be approached differently.”
Ben’s sister, 4-year-old Lila, who does not have autism, and is getting wise to the fact that Santa and Grandpa bear have a suspicious resemblance. But she’s not letting on to Ben, and visiting the autism-friendly Santa is giving the Borres a chance to share a family experience they otherwise might be denied.
Lepak, 69, of Manchester recently donned his Santa suit — plus a brand-new beard and snow-white wig — and met with several Hartford-area children and their parents at their now-annual playground gathering. He’s learned over the years how to pep it up for siblings who don’t have autism, and how to tone it down for children who seem overwhelmed.
He starts with a few mellow “Ho, Ho, Ho” greetings, watches for those who are intrigued, and smiles or beckons to them to come closer. Many steer clear but watch him, either curiously or warily, while others remain disinterested.
“You’ll see them watch Santa out of the corner of their eye, then little by little they’ll come closer, then walk away as if you’re not there, and come back in a bit,” Lepak said. “It’s really about following their lead and communicating on their terms.”
Some will give him a high five; the braver ones might sit on his lap. At the recent gathering, one child had no interest at all in Santa until he realized the big guy in the bright red suit was willing to push him on a swing — and those fleeting moments were enough for the boy’s family to snap pictures.
A growing number of malls also are setting aside special times for sensitive Santa visits when the shopping centers would otherwise be closed, including the 23 shopping malls of Glimcher Realty Trust, based in Columbus, Ohio.
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